frequently asked questions

1. 'asian male revolutions'? what's in a name?

When we thought of the name 'Asian Male Revolutions' we envisioned a binary, individual/society-wide struggle facing all Asian men as they try to find their bearing in a society that (off the official and public record) isn't prepared to accept them as equals to white or black men.

With our name we also pay homage to the Founding Fathers of the United States and their belief in 'the equality of all men', as expressed by their own Revolution of 1776 - but we simultaneously take measure of the irony inherent in the fact that this ideal still eludes us - even in this self-proclaimed era of "multiculturalism".

2. what is your website about, exactly?

We intend for this website to stand as a monument to the mis- application of "multiculturalism" in American society and the Media, and as a record of the issues that Asian men face in contemporary American society.

AMR is also anything but a 'soft option' - we make no apologist arguments nor do we sugarcoat the truth. However, we do take care to present our information in a respectful manner.

We would also like for AMR to be the definitive, one-stop 'depot' of online information that the average, uninformed American will need to better understand certain aspects of the American-American man and the Asian-American community.

We will enable viewers (especially Asian-Americans) to take the information on this site and form a logical defense against people who try to demean or push Asian men around - this could happen in a classroom, on an internet bulletin board, or in a casual discussion.

Outside of bars and clubbing environments where physical intimidation and force are the usual outcomes of disagreements, we believe that preparing oneself with information is the best defense in most other situations.

We hope to inspire other Asian men in this country and around the world to take courage and initiative by reading our site, and we especially hope that our message will reach those individuals that feel isolated or hopeless.

Therefore we would greatly appreciate it if you, the reader, could tell as many people as possible about this website - one way to do this is by adding us to your Facebook friend list.


3. there's a lot of material here. do you really expect people to sit through all this?

No, you're right. Frankly, we don't expect the majority of people to read the contents of this site from 'cover-to-cover'. They may skim through most of it, or just take a look around before leaving, some never to return. We know this is some heady, complicated stuff.

This is one of the reasons why we we'll be working on a mirror-site called AMR Redux in 2012. (Click link) is a statement to the world - a loose 'thesis' that supports the message we present to the public - and Redux will be the vehicle through which this information will be disseminated to the general public, using a simplified formula for ease of understanding.

In the meantime, we have created the AMR Viewing Guide (Click link) to help you get your bearings while browsing through

4. asian male issues? isn't the scope a bit narrow here? what about other asian-american issues? i can also think of a million more important causes than asian guys not being able to find dates.

This website is a niche enterprise/cause - we've never pretended otherwise.

However, given the fact that RACE plays such a central role in America's social dialogue, we would argue that 'Asian Male Issues' are critically important for the moral integrity of the current model of American 'diversity'.

In other words, the transparent holes in the logic cementing the current model of "diversity" (in which only white men/white women, black men, and Asian women are allowed to socially, sexually, and ideologically participate in the mainstream discussion on race - all on an unspoken but implicitly understood level) - make 'Asian Male Revolutions' and its message VERY important and relevant by default.

Let's face it - without Asian males in the picture anyone engaged in the dialogue on diversity and interracial harmony (whether that person is a white male/female, a black male, or an Asian female), becomes a hypocrite by default.

You cannot have selective diversity and hope to retain a moral high-ground - because the American Ideals become dirty and polluted as a result.

In summation, we started this project because we believe that there is a very real malaise in the American treatment of 'diversity' and 'interracial harmony', and we've decided to speak openly, honestly, and rationally about this matter. If a person can't take a message this real and respectful and listen to it, maybe the problem doesn't lie with us - but with them.

5. i'm an asian-american woman and my mate is a white man. i'm pretty offended by your website and its message. aren't you being a bit racist by singling out couples like us?

First, a disclaimer: This does not apply to Asian-American women who found love with a non-Asian man for reasons that don't have to do with personal choices stemming from internalized racism.

As part of a community that comprises only 5% of the American population, finding someone who really cares about you is hard enough - and sometimes the cards just line themselves up so that you can't find your "Asian-American prince" and find love elsewhere, almost as if by accident. We understand that reality, and we know that we must respect your personal choices.

Now, with that said - we want to make it clear that we endorse and celebrate interracial relationships, as long as they are not based on internalized racism and opportunism. (Click link)

The fundamental issue here is whether a given interracial relationship is based on one or a series of racialized notions of an individual's desirability as a mate.

In contrast, a progressive interracial relationship is one that is based on commonalities which appear in spite of real or perceived cultural/ethnic/racial differences.

The problem is that a significant number of people who are in interracial relationships like to automatically think of themselves as the progressive type, without giving any thought as to why they might be together to begin with.

It is important to examine these aspects of our human nature and society so that we don't allow racism to creep underground and flourish like it has until now, under this white-washing veil of "multiculturalism".

Besides, is a little self-reflection too much to ask of someone?

Put yourself in our shoes. You're an Asian man, and you live in a society that celebrates your Asian sisters as an integral part of a "multiracial utopia" (Click link), and makes a point of pairing them up with others, particularly white men.

On the other hand, you - as an Asian man - are saddled by the same society with all sorts of stereotypes and are excluded almost entirely from public view and the media - as the latter acts to distort your self-perception and self-esteem as an adolescent, and well into adulthood.

To add insult to injury, this media subliminally conditions women of all colors, including Asian women, to see you as an inferior mate choice - and soon enough you begin to see white men exploit this racist dynamic/loophole to their advantage.

And many Asian women, being conditioned by media and social pressure to see white and Asian men in a polarizing way, are only too happy to silently and passively accept their complicity with white men in this racist system.

So if you were in an Asian man's position, would you sit and quietly take this systematic, institutionalized abuse?

Would you watch stupidly as your community begins to fray at the edges, to eventually disintegrate before your eyes? Or would you fight for your loved ones?

Would you want your half-Asian son to grow up in a world where he is an unofficial second-class citizen because of his Asian ancestry?

And how would you feel about someone who defends a society with such an institutionalized prejudice? About some who accuses you of being racist because you're fighting an ingrained form of covert racism that is difficult to pinpoint?

We're merely doing what you would do, if it were you/Asian women that were a marginalized part of American society: we're standing up for ourselves - not to mention our families and children.

This might be something you continually take for granted as a member of a favored and readily accepted segment of mainstream American society, but maybe this website will help you gain a new perspective.

Finally, we feel that those couples who are in interracial relationships for the right reasons have nothing to feel offended by and nothing to be defensive about.

So perhaps one's reaction to one of this website's messages - which is to carefully analyze our subliminal, race-based motivations for choosing mates of a different color - may reveal his or her true colors.

Remember that your interracial relationship with a white man never be legitimate [as a representative symbol of tolerance and liberalism] until it the systematic checks against Asian American men are publicly acknowledged and eradicated.

Now tell us - which side of justice are you on?

6. look. my man may be white but i am with him because i love him for who he is.

You're right - we're not in a position to question your personal relationships, because we don't know anything about you.

What we're doing is merely asking you to examine your sub-conscious motivations for your mate choice, and the possibility of that choice being based, at least in part, on the associations you make between 'race' and the desirability of a person.

We're not telling you to dump the man you love - we're not fascists!

Instead, let's talk about the duality of 'Love'.

We realize that the world is a messy and imperfect place, and that some people can still fall in love if they're in close proximity, no matter what the history or circumstance.

For example, the brutal Nazi occupation of Paris in World War Two never stopped Parisian women from having passionate love affairs with German officers, even though their fellow Frenchmen had been murdered at the hands of the very same Germans during the Allied defense of France.

The world-famous fashion designer Coco Chanel was one of these women, and lived in the Paris Ritz Carlton with a German officer during the War (click link).

In addition [to the obvious benefits of dalliances with German officers], many women fell for the tough and handsome demeanor of some of the conquerors.

One admirer, the daughter of a French industrialist, gushed that the Germans, "with their stern regard, their boots, their swelling chests and blond hair," represented "a world in which suddenly I wanted to live, a world full of force, of beauty, of virility."

- From 'The Resistance', World War II, TIME LIFE Books

Some well-bred French women who expected to loathe the invaders found themselves susceptible to the Germans' advances.

One lady was so appalled by her first sight of the enemy that her knees buckled and she had to take a seat at a sidewalk table - only to be joined there by a German naval officer who ordered her a drink.

"There I was, sharing champagne with the enemy," she confessed later. "Oh zut alors! He had a way with him, that admiral did."

Many liasons begun in like manner had serious consequences.

"There'll be plenty of little Germans on the way soon," a taxi driver remarked to his fare.

- From 'Lightning War', The Third Reich, TIME-LIFE Books

As the above quotes attest, many women were subconsciously attracted to the German invaders by the social and economic prestige that they could offer during war-time rationing, and other privations: as other Parisians starved, they continued to dine with their German lovers at the finest French restaurants, which were earmarked and reserved for German soldiers only.

But of course to those young women, their love affairs with German men represented a classic and innocuous 'boy-meets-girl' scenario - they romanticized these men in their imaginations, and in their embrace the moral and ethical concerns of 'sleeping with the enemy' were a distant afterthought - especially in the face of economic and social hardships, and the alternative of the 'good life'.

Furthermore - that many of these girls also shared a deep and genuine love/bond with their German lovers remains beyond a reasonable doubt - because underneath their assumed social roles as 'master' and 'slave', they were still human beings.

This historical example classically illustrates the tendency of people to compartmentalize and neatly separate these dualities in order to rationalize any ethically questionable choices they might make in their lives.

And if we cross-analyze the above example with the mate choices which some contemporary Asian-American women make after subconsciously associating certain traits with white men (positive) and Asian men (negative), one will begin to notice some startling similarities.

This evidence of a racial bias in the Asian female's mate choice is further underscored by the fact that the overwhelming majority of Asian women in interracial relationships are with white men, and not black, Latino, East Indian, or Native American men. (click link)

Of course, that men of these ethnic groups do not carry the same symbolic association with social prestige as white men is probably not a coincidence or an accident.

This (and countless other examples in human history) illustrates the duality that is inherent in 'love' and human nature, and how it operates on two levels: one very personal and intimate, and the other on a symbolic, societal level.

At the end of the day, we know that we can't tell people how to live their lives - but we can respectfully ask them to examine their motivations in life more closely.

In summation, we only ask that Asian-American women be more honest with themselves and with those around them.

Ultimately though, the choice to be open-minded is up to them - it remains as true as ever that ignorance is most often a self-imposed state of mind:

We allow ourselves to be deceived because the Lie is more convenient, and because we don't want to face the Truth - this fact of life doesn't seem to be any different with some Asian-American women.

7. things have already been changing for a long time.
i'm an asian male and i have no problems with women
or with integrating into mainstream society, so isn't
this just more whining and excuse-making from asian
men? i've heard enough, already...

Please refer to the frequently asked question below.

8. why don't you asian guys stop blaming everyone
and everything else, and take some responsibility
for your shortcomings?

It is unreasonable to totally take the blame away from a society with a glaringly obvious anti-Asian male bias, but that's still a good point.

We're not foolish enough to actually believe that Asian men don't have a responsibility in the current situation - and that's precisely the point of our name.

This Asian Male 'Revolution' happens everywhere, and every day... and it begins with each Asian-American Man.

Every time an Asian guy takes responsibility for the way things are in his life (click link) and takes the initiative to change, he is a Revolutionary.

Every time he talks to a woman he's always wanted to approach, every time he assumes a leadership role to challenge stereotypes - he is creating his own Revolution.

This Revolution happens every day, often going unnoticed by people because of its incremental nature. In time, though, the aggregate and sum of these tiny, everyday 'revolutions' will eventually come together to propel Asian men into a better standing in American society.

And when that happens, Asian-American men will have no one else to thank except themselves. They will have given themselves the greatest gifts of all: self-respect and self-reliance.

And that of course is how things are done in America - it's the American Way.

"With Liberty and Justice for All..."
- The U.S. Pledge of Allegiance

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